Sadly, this is all entirely accurate. A couple of more good strategies are arguing "you're not representative of the X experience," "other people who share your marginalized status (or part of it) say different things" and "You're mad at/complaining about the wrong things or the wrong people, your real problem is Y."

Anyway, this is a really well-observed, which I can see comes from a place of deeply felt and focused anger. (If you're not outraged, you're not paying attention, as they say.) Thanks for sharing.